How to differ, but wisley

One of the interesting things about Solomon’s problem is that they are crystal clear. One need not wonder what the wise man meant when, for instance, in Proverbs he says, “Do not set foot on the path of the wicked” (4:14). We correctly understand that wicked people have a certain life-style and we are not to live that way. This is so important that Solomon restates it several times: “Avoid it . . . don’t even think about it . . . turn your back on it . . . keep moving” (various translations of phrases in vv. 14-15). The wise man considers the way of the wicked and quickly decides against it.
       But if our way of living is to be different from the life of the unbeliever, what about all of the acceptable things they do such as earning a living, raising a family, paying income tax? Don’t we both live the same way in these areas? The answer, of course, is Yes. But what the proverb is talking about is the difference between a life governed by natural desires in contrast to a life lived in fellowship with God’s Son. While there is common ground on a number of issues there is a distinct difference when it comes purpose and direction.
       The point of the proverb is not that we should cut off contact with the world but that we should not become one with them. I remember from teaching World Religions that in every major religion separation from the wrong companions is essential for growth. Gautama Buddha wrote, “An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.” Those working with the data of sociology agree that people tend to unwittingly absorb the outlook and practices of those with whom whose they associate. No wonder Solomon warns against following “the path of evil doers” (NLT).
      I know that the immediate reaction of some is, “But aren’t we supposed to win people like that to Christ and how can we do that if we aren’t together?”
To the two questions I would answer (1) Yes, and (2) Don’t confuse normal contact with buddying. Christianity draws a clear line between good and evil. Spurgeon’s response to the latter is, “If Christ has died for me, I cannot trifle with the evil that killed my best Friend.” May God grant to each of us tender concern for the “not yets” of our community and a firm “no way” to a life style that placed our Lord on the cross.